“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Self -ish and -less …ness

One of the constraints of writing on the internet is that I can’t take for granted the things you would already know about me if we were friends already. My words can be misconstrued, and I’d never know it if you didn’t comment about it. So if anything in my posts sounds grossly wrong or [...]

Loss sucks

I know that this pain was ameliorated by so many kind circumstances that felt like it was Jesus himself plumping the pillow behind my head and wiping away my tears, but can I just say that almost three months later it still sucks to have miscarried? I still miss Baby Peanut, still cry to think [...]

Long time, no see!

Well, we’re back online after a two month break, and boy, a full two months it has been.

We moved out to to the country to live with my dad. We are adjusting to country-speed internet access, which is partly to blame for our long break. We really enjoy the space and the house and the [...]

Adoption: Joy and sorrow

Some dear friends of ours recently became foster parents. They’d been wanting children for several years and recently found that they would be unable to conceive. So she called me and we had many long talks about foster parenting and adopting. Two months ago they had a sweet infant boy placed with them, and their [...]

Preferential adopters

In the world of adoptive parenting, the term “preferential adopters” generally refers to those who adopt before having biological children. Another definition says they are those who adopt for reasons other than infertility. Still another definition says they prefer adoption to birthing as a means of adding children to a family.
None of these definitions satisfies [...]

Let her be

A lot of my regular reads are discussing abortion right now. I know where I stand (abortion is always wrong), but I find it enlightening and somewhat brain-frying to read blogs of pro-abortion folks. I like to understand their perspective and reasonings, though.
Until today I had forgotten one aspect of how deeply abortion could have [...]

Footprints on the adoption journey

I have recently read (thanks Robyn!) that there are a string of “adoptions” happening from Zambia, but they’re not following Zambian procedure for adoption, merely paying the orphanage and flying home with the child. This is illegal and it is this type of activity that can cause a country to shut its doors to intercountry [...]

To JuneBug

As you might know, my wife and I are pretty big privacy advocates. As such, we try to limit the amount of personal information that gets posted on the internet. I know that as soon as something is public, it can never be brought back. The words and pictures you post are cigar smoke, under [...]

Yes or no?

Are my pages on Independent International Adoption and Zambia helpful to YOU? If so, please click on them and leave me a little note in the comments at the bottom of the page. I’m considering taking them down because our family may be going a different direction now, but if they are helpful to you [...]

Adoption stall

My Dad has been diagnosed with ALS, Amyotropic Lateral Sclerosis, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease. It is a progressive disease that affects voluntary muscle control, eventually rendering the patient totally paralyzed and usually resulting in death within 3-5 years. We want to be the ones caring for him when he needs it, which [...]